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You Stop Hiding & Start Shining

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Be honest...

Does this sound familiar

Do you believe that God created you with a purpose, but have no idea how to move forward in it?

Do you ever feel like you have so much potential locked up in you, but struggle to unleash it?

Is it hard for you to feel worthy enough, beautiful enough, good enough, or capable enough to have the life you desperately desire?

Do you want to experience the very best God has for you?

If you answered yes to any of these, you’re not alone…

When you see yourself like God sees you, you can be who He’s called you to be & do what He’s called you to do.

What's up

Hey queen, I’m Bernadette.

I’ve struggled with the same things for decades. The struggle is real… and annoying.

I haven’t figured it all out, but I’ve learned some key lessons that have led to amazing breakthroughs.

My climb out of insecurity, depression, and living a life without purpose & passion was exhausting.

I’m hoping to make your journey easier.

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here's the truth

Matthew 5:14

  1. You are the light of the world.

  2. You were designed to shine.

  3. You have gifts the world needs.

  4. Your past does not define you.

  5. You have a purpose. Walk in it.

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A gentle reminder. Don’t get so caught up in getting everything perfect, that you don’t get anything done. 
Imperfection and failure are a part of the journey. Don’t try to avoid it. Embrace it. 
Learn as you go, celebrate the wins, remember the lessons, and enjoy the process. 
Happy Friday friends! 🌞♥️
When the journey gets hard and it feels like things aren’t changing fast enough, remember this...
+ There are things happening behind the scenes that you are unaware of. 
+ God is working things out for you at this very moment. 
+ The temptation to give in is usually strongest before the breakthrough. 
Remain patient, keep going, and most importantly, don’t give up sis. 
... this is another reminder that I’ve held onto in this season. 
What are some of the lessons and reminders that have helped you lately?
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✨Trusting the process. 
✨Staying focused on the goal. 
✨Moving through the discomfort. 
✨Pushing past our limits.
✨Getting comfortable with failure and learning how to bounce back. 
👉🏾The story of every dream chaser and every goal digger... 
It may be taking longer than we imagined, but it will happen for us. 
Keep going sis. Keep going. 
You will make it. ♥️
👇🏾Tag your favorite dream chaser.
Simply put, she’s one of the best humans I know and one of the best friends I’ve ever had. Happy birthday to my beautiful sister. May your 30th year bring you all that you’ve dreamed of and more. Love you @jayd3n 
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#blackgirlmagic #myblackisbeautiful💋 #blackqueens #melaninbeauty #melaninpopping
How God works....
1️⃣ I met @lurch21 when I was 15. 
2️⃣ He introduced me to @darrenjevon and we spoke a handful of times 
3️⃣ I moved to DC, then Cali, then Fl
4️⃣ 7 years ago THIS WEEK @lurch21 married @erinnnjoseph and I ran into @darrenjevon for the first time in years at their wedding. We had a quick convo. 
5️⃣ 10 years after our first meeting and years after their wedding, @lurch21 invited me to an event where I ran into @darrenjevon again. That was our last “random” encounter. 
After that day, he asked me out, and we’ve been doing life together ever since. 
I’d met my destiny at 15, but didn’t have my first date with him until I was 25. 
There were so many times I felt frustrated seeing “everyone else” get married. 
I got discouraged and frustrated in the waiting period. 
I couldn’t see God’s plan at the time, but it was unfolding perfectly, right before my eyes. 
It’s a reminder to me that even when I can’t see His hand, I can always trust his plan. 
Whatever you’re waiting for, God’s had it worked out before the beginning of time. 
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I’ve been reminding myself of this a lot lately. Sometimes the hard moments feel eternal. 
Sometimes the grief, the pain, the disappointment, the heartache, the missed expectations, the crummy circumstances, the (fill in the blank)... can make you feel trapped in a moment that feels like forever. 
But it’s not. I promise it’s not. 
This is just a moment in time. A single point in the timeline of your life. 
This too shall pass. 
And after it’s passed, you will remain. You’ll still be standing. 
You’ll be stronger, more resilient, wiser...
You will make it through the darkest days and the toughest moments. 
This is not the end. 
You. Will. Make. It. ♥️
✨Tag someone who needs the reminder.
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Happy Birthday to my baby cakes! D, 33 never looked so good. I’m so inspired by you. You never stop learning, never stop growing, and never stop trying. Being your partner has for sure made me a better human. I love and appreciate you more than I could ever express! Live it up kid. The best is yet to come. 🥂🎈🍰
Being Christian doesn’t mean that everything is easy, or that you’ll never come up against trouble. But it does mean that you’ll have the Creator of the Universe in your corner every step of the way, helping you through. Never alone, never forgotten, never abandoned. ♥️ #goodgoodfather
May 4th we had a miscarriage. May 5th my mom was on a plane to come stay with me. 
I didn’t ask her to come, I didn’t think it was worth her missing work. But in true mommy fashion, she shut me down 😂, and was at my doorstep in less than 24 hours. 
She stayed with us for over a month. She prayed for me and with me. She let me cry on her for what felt like hours. She hugged me and comforted me the way only a mama can. And she would not leave my side until she was confident that I was okay. 
I love my momma from the bottom of my heart. She’s my role model in many ways. I wanna be like her, especially as a mom. 
And today’s her birthday. She’s not on Instagram, and I doubt she even knows what it is 😂, but nevertheless, I couldn’t let the day go by without talking about her. 
Love you mama. Happy bday queen! ♥️
#prayingmamas #prayerwarrior #miscarriage #miscarriageawareness #ilovemymommy #blackmoms #blacklovematters #blackcouples #loveandhappiness
We just came through one of the most challenging seasons we’ve faced since being married (and we’re no stranger to challenges). 
But just like that, God restored our smiles, deepened our friendship, and strengthened our commitment to Him. 
Marriage ain’t easy. It’s not for the faint of heart. It’s having to be there for someone while you’re going through your own stuff. It’s vulnerability, perseverance, and unconditional love. 
It’s not easy, but it’s so worth it. Grateful that I get to do this with Him. Love you @darrenjevon
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A “just because” gift from my hubby. It took 5 years, but he now remembers that tulips are my favorite flower. 😂🌷 
I could neverrrrr have picked a better husband for myself. 
I’m so glad I waited on God instead of marrying one of my exes. 😂 Seriously though, God knew what He was doing. He gave me all I needed + more than I knew to ask for. 
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Our exes introduced us. And over the years we let them go and kept each other. 😂😂
14 years ago, this month, I became friends with this queen.  And I couldn’t be more grateful to call her my sister. 👯‍♀️
“I consider her my blood, it don’t come no thicker.”
#realfriendship #thatsmybestfriend #blackgirlbloggers #melaninbeauty #melaninpopping #sistersforever
What I do know is that God created each of us in His image and Jesus died for all of us. .
What I do know is that Jesus stood up for people that were oppressed and mistreated. .
What I do know is that right now people are GENUINELY hurting, scared, angry and tired of being viewed as “less than.” .
What I do know is that if you’ve never walked in our shoes, or tried to understand our point of view or our pain, it’s easy to dismiss it. .
What I don’t understand is the divide that exists around issues of race in the church. .
I don’t understand my brothers and sisters who speak out and criticize the BLM Movement, but not the blatant acts of racism and prejudice. .
Or The people who defend standing for the flag, but don’t say anything about kneeling on a another human being’s neck. .
The people who vehemently support pro-life when it comes to babies, but have nothing to offer when it comes to rallying for the lives and livelihood of people of color. .
I wish we could have these kinds of open conversations in the church because I genuinely want to understand the difference. .
In the midst of my confusion, I’m so grateful for all of the conversations that are taking place and for all of the people of diverse races who are standing with us against issues of systemic racism. .
I know that being Christian doesn’t mean that we will agree on everything, but I do pray that it means we’ll continue to stand up for ANY people that are being oppressed, mistreated, or abused. .
I love y’all and even if we disagree with each other on this, let’s challenge ourselves to ALWAYS see each other’s humanity and seek to understand each other’s perspectives. 💕
#blacklivesmatter #blackisbeautiful #jesuslovesyou #christianblogger #walkinlove
One step at a time we’re making our dreams come true. Amidst all the setbacks we’re grateful for all God has done for us. #hesawaymaker #thankyoulord
⚡️ Reaching the next level requires more of you. 👊🏾 You *have* to do the hard things and tackle the things that scare you. There are ZERO shortcuts to the future you want and deserve. 💪🏾 Fear of rejection and fear of failure will come, but YOU ARE STRONG ENOUGH to move past it. 🙏🏾 Your future self is depending on you to boss up and move in your purpose. 👸🏾So do it queen. DO IT!
PS. If you need a mental kick in the 👖 to help you get moving in your 2020 goals, and you haven’t read “everything is Figureoutable” by @marieforleo yet, then you want to do that ASAP. It’s *that* good. Promise. .
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5 years ago today we had our first last date! 
I knew from the moment you picked me up @darrenjevon that you were gonna be my future baby daddy 😂😂. Grateful for the first 5 and looking forward to the next 55. Love you baby. 🥂
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📸 by @nidia_serrano_
Choosing happiness doesn’t mean that I’ll only do what makes me happy (that’s not real life and that’s not practical). * For me it means learning how to be happy even in  tough times. In 2019, I realized how short and fragile life really is. * The only moment I have full control over is THIS moment, right here, right NOW. And I’m learning to enjoy, embrace, and appreciate every moment for the joy it brings or for the lesson it’s teaching me. * And my prayer is that whatever 2020 brings my way, I’ll learn to find the beauty in each moment and each day count. .
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Sometimes you gotta call a spade a spade. * 2019 reminded me that while I can’t always control my circumstances, I can always control *myself*... * my thoughts, attitude, behavior, emotions, etc...
* I wasn’t always doing the best job with that, bc let’s be honest... it’s easier not to sometimes. 🤷🏽‍♀️
* Turning 30 made me realize that if I keep taking the easy road, I’ll be disappointed with myself and nowhere near my goals in a few years. * So last year I focused on developing discipline (because I lacked a lot of it). Lol
* And it allowed me to break some habits that didn’t serve me, and replace them with ones that are changing my life (ex. Reading/learning daily). 📚 * I still have a long ways to go, but *practice makes progress*. And what more can a girl ask for? * So, if you’re struggling to make the kind of progress you want, I’d encourage you to be really honest WITH yourself ABOUT yourself. * What do you need to develop/change to many forward and hit your, “New Year, New Me” goals?
* Do yourself a favor. Focus on those things in 2020, and you’ll be so much prouder of yourself this time next year
* 🥂 to growing into the people we need to be, to hit the goals we’ve set for ourselves. .
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