Before we dive into confidence affirmations, let me ask you a question…
How do you speak about yourself?
Better yet, how do you speak to yourself?
Are you mean?
Does your own self-talk resemble that of a bully’s?
If you find yourself constantly pointing out your flaws, comparing yourself to others, and talking down to yourself, keep reading.
It’s time to ditch the negative self-talk and replace it with powerful life-giving, confidence boosting affirmations.
What’s Hurting Your Confidence?
The most damaging thing you can do is place your confidence in the wrong things…
Now, in a blog post about Confidence Affirmations, I know that probably sounds counter-intuitive, so let me explain.
If our confidence is in us alone, we’ve set ourselves up to fail.
Well, because we’re human.
We’re flawed, we’re limited, we’re prone to make mistakes and mess up.
Don’t leave yet, the confidence boosting is coming shortly. Pinky Promise ;p
So if your confidence is only in who you are or what you can accomplish in your own strength, at some point you’ll hit a wall and disappoint yourself.
So what’s the answer then?
The most impactful thing we can do, is place our confidence in God.
The Bible tells is that in our weakness, Christ’s strength rests on us.
🙏🏾 2 Corinthians 12:9 – But he said to me, “My grace is sufficient for you, for my power is made perfect in weakness.” Therefore I will boast all the more gladly about my weaknesses, so that Christ’s power may rest on me.
Being able to go through life, not just in my own strength, but with the power of God resting on me?
Umm, yes! – Sign me up please! 🙋🏾♀️
Talk about a confidence booster.
Choosing to be confident in who we are both IN and THROUGH God, takes so much pressure off ourselves to have it all together or to do things perfectly.
Now that we know where to put our confidence, it’s time to get our words in alignment.
But first things, first.
The Cycle of Negativity
We have to address the cycle of negativity.
What exactly is the cycle of negativity?
Well, I’m glad you asked.
Here are the highlights:
- Your words can be traced back to your thoughts
- Your thoughts can be traced back to your beliefs
- Your beliefs are based on your perceptions of yourself and the things that have happened in your life
Your negative beliefs about yourself, give birth to negative thoughts, and ultimately negative self-talk.
And the more you stay in that cycle of speaking and thinking badly about yourself, the more engrained those negative beliefs can become.
How to End the Cycle of Negative Thoughts
Simply put, The Thought Exchange will help you move from a negative to an empowering mindset.
The thought exchange is about trading negative thoughts for confidence boosting, faith building thoughts.
Here’s how it works:
- Choose new positive thoughts about yourself (the Bible has so many good things to say about who you truly are in Christ)
- Turn those thoughts into confidence boosting affirmations (changes your self-talk)
- Meditate on those new thoughts and affirmations (changes your mindset)
Changing your self-talk is one of the best ways to reprogram your subconscious mind.
This concept is so powerful that successful people have used it for generations.
And even the Bible tells us that God transforms us (to be more like Him) by helping us change the way we think.
“But let God transform you into a new person by changing the way you think.” (Romans 12:2 NLT)
One of the great things about using affirmations is that you can start instantly.
100 Daily Confidence Affirmations
- I am beautiful inside and out – I am made in the image of God
- I love myself because God loves me
- I am worthy of love
- I am worthy of respect
- I respect myself and attract relationships with others who respect me too
- I am loved unconditionally by God. He calls me His daughter
- I appreciate and value myself
- My goal is progress, not perfection
- I am happy with and proud of the woman I’m growing into
- Confidence comes naturally to me
- I am finding new things to appreciate about myself daily
- I am likable and lovable
- I like myself
- My body is beautiful and strong
- My body has carried me through so much and I am grateful for it
- I appreciate my body more every day
- I appreciate the beauty in other women – I don’t compare myself to them.
- I add value to the people I’m in relationships with
- I am an amazing friend
- I am doing my best and that’s enough for me
- I am committed to living a purposeful life
- I am here for a reason
- I am growing into my best self
- I won’t let my mistakes define me
- Messing up is human. I allow myself to be human and give myself grace when i mess up.
- I don’t tolerate unhealthy relationships
- Today I am showing up as the best version of myself
- I am making my voice and opinion heard
- I have something worthwhile to say
- I have something worthwhile to contribute
- Even when I don’t know what to do, I will eventually figure it out
- God has given me everything I need to face today’s challenges
- I am an overcomer
- I am resilient
- Every time life knocks me down, I get back up stronger
- I am making good decisions today
- I let go of negative thoughts and focus on positive thoughts
- I am a positive person
- I am a joy to be around
- My self-worth isn’t based on what others think of me
- I don’t let others define me.
- Not everyone’s opinion of me, matters to me. I value the opinion of those who genuinely know me and love me.
- I am full of good ideas.
- I embrace healthy relationships and let go of toxic ones
- I choose to always build myself up, never tear myself down
- I choose to always encourage myself, never discourage myself
- I am hopeful and optimistic about my future
- I get better every day
- I embrace the ways my body is changing
- I am proud of myself for trying, no matter how things turn out
- I find powerful lessons in my past mistakes and failures
- I am proud of myself for not quitting
- I am proud of myself for choosing to be positive
- I am brave
- I am strong and courageous. I don’t let fear control me
- God made me on purpose – I am supposed to be here
- God gave me a purpose – I will discover and pursue it
- I have the skills needed to accomplish my God given purpose.
- I am wise.
- I am more than enough.
- I am made in the image and likeness of God.
- I am blessed and I have favor with God.
- I am provided for by God. He meets my needs.
- I am protected by God. He watches over me.
- I am loved by God. I love and appreciate myself because He made me.
- I am able to overcome any challenge that comes my way.
- I am wanted and pursued by God. I was created to have a relationship with Him.
- I am kind to myself.
- I forgive myself when I mess up and show myself grace. I know God does too.
- I am growing and learning every day. I’m constantly getting better and I enjoy it.
- I am blessed to be a blessing.
- I have what I need.
- I am creative and come up with solutions to problems.
- I embrace the unknown and I am okay with mystery in life.
- I am comfortable with change and transition.
- I am kind, loving, and compassionate.
- I am a light in this world.
- I am confident enough to ask for help. It’s a sign of strength, not weakness
- I am saying ‘no’ to things that don’t serve me
- I am a beautiful work in progress.
- I attract good things.
- I am healthy, mentally, physically.
- My past does not control me. My future is bright and promising.
- I love my life and I’m grateful for it
- I like myself. I won’t try to be like anyone else
- I am wonderfully unique
- I don’t compare myself to anyone
- My life matters. I am making a difference in this world
- I am grateful for all that I have.
- I am comfortable being myself and expressing myself
- I am receiving God’s best for me.
- I am inspired by the person I’m becoming.
- I am worthy of having good things happen to me
- I have peace and I am at peace.
- I am stepping out of my comfort zone with boldness
- I attract people who love, value, and support me
- The best is yet to come for me
- I am capable of incredible success
- I am showing up authentically today
- I am cheering myself on today.
How Daily Affirmations Help Build Self-Confidence
“Sticks and stones can break my bones, but words will never hurt me.”
Lemme tell you something sis, they lied.
The science backs it up – negative words can literally affect your brain, your hormones, and ultimately your actions.
So fixing your negative self-talk is critical to boosting your confidence.
Again, the Bible has so many good things to say about how God sees you – and those Bible Verses are the perfect inspo to help you choose life-giving words to speak to yourself.
I can tell you from personal experience, that it won’t be an overnight change.
The science proves that if you practice choosing new thoughts and words daily, it will positively impact the way you think and feel.
“Positive affirmations require regular practice if you want to make lasting, long-term changes to the ways that you think and feel. The good news is that the practice and popularity of positive affirmations are based on widely accepted and well-established psychological theory. – Positive Psychology”
And the Bible says this about our words…
“Do not let any unwholesome talk come out of your mouths, but only what is helpful for building others up according to their needs, that it may benefit those who listen. – Ephesians 4:29 NIV”
That’s perfect wisdom to guide how we talk to ourselves, not just how we talk to others.
Add Confidence Affirmations to your Daily Routine
Amazing things will start happening when you make confidence affirmations part of your daily routine.
Morning affirmations are an especially effective way to start the day with a positive outlook.
Make a commitment to stop talking crap to yourself, and instead start repeating these simple positive statements.
You’ll literally begin reprogramming your mind.
Over time, your thoughts, feelings, and beliefs about yourself will begin changing.
And you’ll find yourself transforming into a more confident version of yourself…
The version of yourself who believes that she is loved, chosen, and cherished by God!
Warning: When you first start using affirmations, you won’t feel any different. In fact you’ll feel like you’re lying to yourself.
Don’t let that stop you.
Push through and keep going.
And as you say each statement, try imagining what it’ll be like when you get to the place where you mean everything you’re saying with your whole heart.
I bet you’re excited to meet the future version of yourself!
Make your own Affirmations
Ready to give your confidence the ultimate pick-me-up?
I recommend writing your own personalized self esteem affirmations.
Nobody knows better than you, what specific issues you’re dealing with.
And no one is better qualified than you, to come up with confidence affirmations that speak to the heart of those issues.
I’ve found some amazing affirmations online, but my favorite affirmations are the ones I created myself.
So, I encourage you to spend some time in prayer, and asking God for help to write your own.
Again, these Bible Verses for Insecurity may be just the inspiration you need to get started.
Other Tips for Using Affirmations
#1: Avoid Unnecessary Triggers
This is easier said than done, but try to avoid unnecessary things that trigger you.
For example, if scrolling on social media will make you feel like a chubby loser, for heaven’s sake, don’t scroll. 😩
Choose activities that will work with your new affirmations habit, not against it.
#2: Use them on Bad Days
When you’re in the middle of a crappy day, it’ll be tempting to go back to your old ways.
But using your affirmations in the middle of a bad day, can help you keep a positive attitude.
#3: Be kind to yourself
Changing your self-talk is hard work, but you’ve done hard things before, so you can do this. Just be patient with yourself and give yourself lots of grace.
#4: Trust the Process
Positive changes usually aren’t obvious immediately.
Realistically you won’t make a 180 degree turn overnight.
But if you take the first step and use these confidence affirmations every single day, you’ll start noticing the little things begin to change.
And before you know it, your entire outlook will be different.
I’ve seen this process work in my own life and I can testify that positive self-talk is a powerful tool.
But even more powerful than just positive self-talk, is declaring what the Bible says about you.
I know first hand that the road ahead is rough.
But getting to the other side of this road is worth it.
God created you – and He loves you. Take time to discover who you are In Him.
PS. My confidence began soaring when I began praying and asking God to help me view myself through His eyes. That’s my prayer for you today – that you’ll see yourself through the eyes of the God who loves you more than you could imagine.
w/ light and love,
Matthew 5:14 – You are the light of the world. And like a city on a hill that cannot be hidden.