300 Best Conversation Starters for Couples to build Intimacy

These conversation starters for couples are perfect for deepening your connection with your boyfriend or husband.

Not only will these conversation starters help you keep the lines of communication open, but they can also help you:

• Build intimacy and connect
• Get to know your partner better
• Feel more comfortable in your relationship
• Get on the same page with him
• Have fun with each other

So whether you’re married or dating with marriage in mind, these conversation starters will be a game changer for you.

If you’re curious (or in a hurry):

In this blog post:

• General Conversation Topics for Couples
• Conversation Starters on Family Finances
• Funny Conversation Starters
• Flirty Conversation Starters
• Conversation Topics for Married Couples
• Conversation Starters with Boyfriend (Dating)
• Most Popular Conversation Starter Games (Thousands of reviews)
• How to Use these Conversation Topics

Conversation Starters for Couples

Since you’re reading this, I know you realize how important communication is in a relationship.

This list includes 300+ Conversation Starters you can use with your hubby or boyfriend.

Later on in this post we dive into more specific topics like conversation starters for married couples, couples preparing for marriage and couples who are dating.

To kick it off, here are some conversation starters you can use at any stage in your relationship.

General Conversation Starters for Couples:

1. What do you want to be remembered for?

2. How well do you function in high pressure situations?

3. What does the best version of yourself look like?

4. What 3 words would those closest to you use to describe you?

5. How many times have you been in love?

6. Are you afraid of getting hurt in a relationship?

7. What are some lessons you’ve learned from your past relationships?

8. What has our relationship taught you about yourself?

9. What do you think makes you a good partner in a relationship?

10. If you could make any 3 wishes right now, what would they be? (You can’t wish for more wishes)

11. Is there an area of my life where you think i’m too hard on myself?

12. Is there an area of my life where you think I cut myself too much slack?

13. Is there anything you want to do that you haven’t because you’ve been procrastinating?

14. Is there any area of our relationship you think I’m unhappy with?

15. What was your first kiss like?

16. What’s one thing you wish you had more time to do?

17. What are you most proud of in your life right now?

18. What’s the hardest thing you’ve ever done?

19. What about our relationship makes you nervous or scared?

20. Do you feel you can trust me?

21. What’s your favorite thing about me?

22. Do you feel you know me on a really deep level?

23. What’s one thing you know about me that most people don’t know?

24. What’s something that annoys you about me?

25. What’s my best quality?

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26. What’s one area you’d like to see me grow in?

27. What’s an important value you want to pass on to your kids?

28. If you could swap lives with anyone for a day, who would you swap with?

29. What are the top 2 places you want to travel and why?

30. What’s something you’ve learned about me that surprises you?

31. What’s something you’ve learned about yourself recently?

32. Would you ever move to another state or city? If so where?

33. Is there any area of your life you feel disappointed or unfulfilled in?

34. What’s something you feel insecure about?

35. What’s the most embarrassing thing you’ve ever done?

36. What are some experiences you really want your kids to have?

37. What are you most grateful for?

38. What’s the silliest thing you’ve ever gotten really upset over?

39. What’s something you purchased that you instantly regretted buying?

40. What do you love most about yourself?

41. What are some of your guiding principles for life?

42. What’s your idea of a dream vacation?

43. When do you feel respected or disrespected by me?

44. When do you feel loved or unloved by me?

45. What’s your favorite book?

46. What’s your favorite movie?

47. What’s a hobby you think i’d enjoy?

48. If you had to pick a different career for me, what would it  be?

49. If you had to choose a different career for yourself, what would it be?

50. What’s one thing you want your kids to remember about you?

51. What’s something you wish I would do more often?

52. What’s an area of our relationship that you can improve upon?

53. What are some fun childhood memories you want to create for your children?

54. What’s one goal you have that feels impossible?

55. What’s your most pressing goal right now?

56. When do you feel most appreciated by me?

57. What’s the last compliment you got that you really appreciated?

58. What’s the last thing that made you really happy?

59. If you won $30k today, how would you spend the money?

60. When’s the last time someone offended you?

61. What’s the last thing you worked on that left you feeling inspired?

62. What inspires and motivates you?

63. What needs to happen for you to look back on your life and feel successful?

64. What’s an area of personal growth you’ve made progress in lately?

65. What’s one way our relationship has changed for the better?

66. Do you feel understood by me?

67. What’s something you regret doing to me?

68. When’s a time you had to be honest with someone even though you knew the truth could hurt them?

69. When’s the last time I hurt your feelings?

70. When’s the last time you failed at something?

71. What are you most afraid of in life?

72. If you could sway my opinion on anything, what would it be?

73. What’s the most thoughtful gift someone’s ever gotten you?

74. When you were younger, is this how you imagined your life would be?

75. What did you want to be when you were child?

76. Do you feel that we spend enough time together?

77. What do you admire most about yourself?

78. What are 3 things you can’t live without and why?

79. When was that happiest time of your life?

80. Have you ever been depressed?

81. Have you ever been arrested?

82. If you’re angry, are you more likely to shut down or talk things out with me?

83. If you could go back in time 10 years, what advice would you give your younger self?

84. Is forgiveness easy for you or is it something you struggle with?

85. What’s the worst advice you’ve ever gotten?

86. What’s the worse advice you’ve ever given?

87. What’s one thing you want to accomplish before your next birthday?

88. What’s something you’d challenge me to do that would force me out of my comfort zone?

89. If you had to pick a class or hobby for us to take up together, what would it be?

90. What’s the hardest thing you’ve ever had to deal with?

91. What do you believe your purpose in life is?

92. Who’s someone you spend a lot of your time encouraging and supporting?

93. What’s something that frustrates you about me?

94. Do you feel we work together as a team?

95. Would you describe yourself as a competitive person?

96. What childhood accomplishment are you most proud of?

97. If you could pick any year of your life to relive, what year would it be and why?

98. How would you describe your personality?

99. What’s the most fun we’ve ever had together?

100. Do you agree with the statement, “opposites attract?”

101. In what ways has your faith grown over the years?

102. What do you think it means to be “equally yolked” with someone?

103. How important is transparency in a relationship?

104. What assumptions did you make about me before getting to know me, that turned out to be wrong?

105. What’s something you’re really passionate about?

106. What’s a profession you think you’d be horrible at?

107. Have you ever felt like you’ve hit rock bottom in life, if so when?

108. In what ways are you similar and different to your parents?

109. What’s the craziest thing you’ve ever done for someone you love?

110. What’s an area of your life that you’d like me to be more supportive of?

111. What’s your primary motivation for staying with me even when things get hard?

112. What’s something you want to happen in your career that would drastically improve things for you?

113. If you could learn a new skillset in one day, what would you learn and why?

114. How would you describe this season of your life?

115. What’s something that makes you really happy?

116. How do you think your life would be different if you never met me?

117. What your favorite memory of us?

118. If we could relive any moment in time together, what moment would you want to relive?

119. In what ways have I exceeded your expectations as a partner?

120. What do you think my big dreams and aspirations are?

121. When’s the last time I impressed you?

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Conversation Starters For Couples on Family Finances

Finances is one of the biggest issues married couples face.

The questions below are probably some of the most crucial conversation starters for couples in this list.

They can save you headaches and frustration, by helping you both get on the same page regarding money matters.

Discussing finances and financial goals in a relaxed and low-pressure environment can lead to a productive and healthy conversation.

Let’s jump in…

1. At what age do you want to be able to retire?

2. Do you think it’s best to have joint or separate bank accounts?

3. Do you think married couples should split the bills 50/50 or based on each person’s income?

4. Do you believe in mindful spending?

5. Are you good at budgeting?

6. What are some spending habits that are / are not working well for you?

7. Do you think we need to consult each other before making big purchases?

8. How much money do you want to have saved in the next 10 years?

9. How do you think we’re doing with managing our family finances?

10. What do you think we could do to improve our financial situation?

11. How much debt do you have?

12. How do you feel about your current financial situation?

13. Do you have a 401k or retirement fund?

14. How much money do you have saved?

15. Do you earn enough to cover all of your monthly financial obligations?

16. How good are you at financial planning?

17. How important is managing finances to you?

18. What are some of your financial goals?

19. What’s your biggest struggle financially?

20. What’s a financial decision you regret or are really proud of?

21. How do you imagine spending your days once you retire?

Funny Conversation Starters for Couples

Our Funny and Silly conversation starters for couples are bound to get a few chuckles.

Think of this as an opportunity to have fun together.

Life is serious and complicated enough, sometimes a few good laughs and a nice conversation is everything you need.

Try these conversation starters to break the ice and don’t be afraid to let your imagination fly…

1. If you had to pick a celebrity to play you in a movie about your life, who would you pick and why?

2. If the only way you could meet your celebrity crush was to clean their toilet, would you do it?

3. What’s the corniest joke you’ve ever heard?

4. What’s the corniest pick up line you’ve ever heard?

5. If you had to dance for me right now, what song would you dance to and why?

6. If you were stranded on an island and could only bring 3 things with you, what would they be?

7. What’s your best pickup line?

8. Pretend I’m a stranger and you want to let me know you’ve noticed me. How would you look at me?

9. Can I see your best dance move?

10. Can I see your best impression of me?

11. If you had to eat the same food for dinner every day for a month, what would it be?

12. What’s your spirit animal and why?

13. Do you believe in aliens?

14. If you had to change your name, what would your new name be?

15. What food best represents your personality?

16. Do you prefer salty or sweet snacks?

17. Are there any conspiracy theories you secretly think are true?

18. If we had to go undercover as superheroes, which superheroes would we be?

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Flirty and Romantic Conversation Starters

Time to spice things up!

These romantic and flirty conversation starters for couples are perfect for building physical and emotional intimacy.

From the irresistibly spicy to the undeniably sweet, these questions are designed to help you explore the more sensual and romantic aspects of your relationship.

1. Can you show me how you want me to initiate sex?

2. What’s a fantasy of yours?

3. Is there anything new you’d like us to try in the bedroom?

4. What turns you on?

5. What’s your favorite part of my body?

6. How can we spice things up in our relationship?

7. Do you feel desired and wanted by me?

8. If you could change one thing about our sex life what would it be?

9. Where do you see us in the next 10 years?

10. What’s the most romantic thing I’ve ever done for you?

11. If i had to plan an epic date night for us, what would I need to do to knock your socks off?

12. If you had to pick something wild and crazy for us to do, what would it be?

13. What’s a song that makes you think about me?

14. What are some things I could do to make you feel loved?

15. What’s one quality you admire in me?

16. What’s the best date you’ve ever been on?

17. What’s your idea of a romantic getaway?

18. What do you admire most about me?

19. How do you want me to express my love for you?

20. How do you express love?

21. When did you know you were in love with me?

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Conversation Starters for Married Couples

One of the exciting things about marriage is the opportunity to grow alongside someone.

We change so much as individuals, and it’s important that we continue getting to know our spouses over the years.

These husband and wife conversations starters are designed to spark conversations that help you check in with your husband.

Give these a try…

1. Is there something you wanted from our marriage, that you’ve given up on?

2. Are your needs being met in our marriage?

3. If you could make any 3 wishes, what would you wish for regarding our marriage?

4. What’s the biggest compromise you’ve made in our marriage?

5. How do you think our marriage has changed after having children?

6. In what ways have I changed since we’ve been married?

7. What’s been the toughest and most enjoyable seasons of our marriage so far?

8. Is our marriage what you envisioned it’d be like?

9. What’s your favorite thing about being married to me?

10. What’s the biggest challenge you’ve had in being married?

11. What’s something we can do to have more fun together?

12. What’s the most fun you’ve ever had with me?

13. If we could take a vacation anywhere in the world together, where would you want to go?

14. What do you like most about each of our kids?

15. What’s your favorite part of being a parent?

16. How would you describe yourself as a spouse?

17. Do you think we do a good job of sharing household responsibilities?

18. How would you feel if one of our parents had to live with us in the future?

19. What’s one of your biggest struggles as a parent?

20. Do you feel you get enough alone time?

21. What do you think about me as a parent?

22. Have there been any moments in our marriage when you were unsure if we’d make it through?

23. How would you describe your parenting style and how would you describe my parenting style?

24. How have we changed individually since getting married?

25. What’s your favorite memory of the kids?

26. Have there been any moments in our marriage when you hated me?

Conversation Starters for Dating Couples

Ahh, the dating period… It’s such an important and exciting time in a relationship.

It’s a season of continuous discovery as you and your boyfriend learn more about each other.

You pull back the curtains and reveal parts of yourself to each other, that most people probably never get to see.

It’s where the foundation of your relationship is built.

And, very few things are as important to the foundation of your relationship as your communication skills.

That’s what we’re flexing today.

These conversation topics for couples who are dating will ease you into developing your communication skills while helping you get to know each other even better.

Let’s get to it shall we?

“Getting to Know You” Conversation Starters

1. What are your favorite hobbies?

2. What’s your favorite childhood memory?

3. Who’s your best friend?

4. What’s the most important lesson you’ve learned from your previous relationships?

5. What’s your dream job?

6. What’s a pet peeve of yours?

7.  What was your favorite TV show growing up?

8. What’s the best vacation you’ve ever taken?

9. What’s your relationship like with your parents?

10. Have you ever been in love?

11. What’s the longest friendship you’ve had and with who?

12. How can you tell when you’re falling in love?

13. How do you think social media has impacted how our generation makes and treats relationships?

14. How do you deal with confrontation?

15. How do you handle constructive criticism?

16. Do you believe in giving 2nd chances in a relationship?

17. What’s your motto for life?

18. Whose cooking do you most enjoy?

19. What’s the longest relationship you’ve had and with who?

20. Are you more of a morning person or a night person?

21. What were your childhood nicknames?

22. What was your favorite game to play growing up?

23. What’s your idea of a perfect date night?

24. What’s the most adventurous thing you’ve ever done?

25. Who’s your support system?

26. If you got into a tough situation and could only call one person to help, who would you call?

27.What are some deal breakers in a relationship?

28. What apps on your phone do you use most often in the day?

29. What do you enjoy doing during your down time?

30. Which of your parents are you closest to?

31. Who’s someone you dislike? Why?

32. Who’s someone you really admire? Why?

33. What made you choose your current career path?

34. What do you love and/or hate about your job?

35. How would you describe the people you’ve dated in the past?

36. What are some common themes for your life?

37. What’s the biggest challenge you’ve overcome?

38. Who’s someone you look up to and why?

39. When it comes to relationships, were you ever a “player”?

40. What are some of your strengths and weaknesses?

41. What’s a funny story your best friend would tell me about you?

42. Did you ever get teased when you were younger?

43. Which would you describe yourself as – someone who wants to fit in or stand out?

44. How important is your faith to you?

45. Did you grow up in a religious family?

46. What are your beliefs about God?

47. Do you have a church home?

48. When’s the last time you volunteered for an organization or a cause?

49. What’s something that all of your exes have in common?

50. Are you more likely to communicate difficult emotions, or keep them to yourself?

51. What’s something you want your children to have that you didn’t have as a child?

52. Would you ever be in a long distance relationship? Why or why not?

53. What’s the longest relationship you’ve ever been in?

54. How many past relationships have you had?

55. What’s your favorite food?

56. What’s a hidden talent you have that not many people know about?

57. What’s something that’s likely to make you feel insecure in a relationship?

58. Are you still friends with any of your exes? How would you feel about me still being friends with my exes?

59. Have you cheated in any of your previous relationships?

60. Have you ever been cheated on?

61. When’s the first time you got your heartbroken?

62. How have your previous relationships influenced who you are today?

63. Would you rather be cold or hot?

64.What are some things you do to relieve stress?

65. What’s your favorite genre of music and who’s your favorite artist?

66. What’s your favorite season and why?

67. What’s your favorite holiday and why?

68. Who’s the most important person to you in your life right now?

Marriage Conversation Starters for Couples Preparing to marry:

1. What do you think are the keys to a successful marriage?

2. Do you think one person in the marriage should manage the finances or should it be a joint effort?

3. What’s your opinion on gender roles in marriage?

4. How do you think our marriage will change once we have children?

5. How can I be a better girlfriend to you?

6. If we were to have kids, what would you want them to get from me and what would you want them to get from you?

7. How many kids do you want to have?

8. What kind of parent do you want to be?

9. How do you think we should share our household responsibilities?

10. What made you want to be in a relationship with me?

11. What’s one of the first things you noticed about me?

12. What do you consider cheating in a relationship?

13. How does your faith influence what kind of husband you want to be?

14. Under what conditions do you believe in divorce?

15. What kind of parent do you see yourself being?

16. Do you expect me to change in any way once we get married?

17. How do you think we should split responsibilities once we have kids?

18. Can you honestly see yourself being friends with me forever?

19. How important is it to you that we raise kids according to your faith?

20. What holiday traditions do you want to pass down to your kids?

21. How do you feel about me having close friends of the opposite sex?

22. Do you think spouses should also be best friends?

23. What are some boundaries you expect us to have in our relationship?

24. How important do you think teamwork is in a relationship?

25. What are some qualities you want your spouse to have?

Conversation Starter Games

Sometimes scrolling through questions on your phone can make this process feel like work.

Purchasing a Conversation Starter Game where you both select questions at random, can bring the spontaneity and fun into your convos.

Here’s our recommendation: Our pick for the Top 3 Conversation Starter Games.

(All games can be found on Amazon and most can usually be purchased for less than $20)

#1: Our Moments for Couples

Our Moments for Couples is one of the most popular and highest rated Conversation Starter games on Amazon.

Whether you’ve been together for a few months or a few years, these questions are bound to help you and your boo learn more about each other.

This card game has over 100 questions. Never run outta things to talk about again!

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#2: 88 Great Conversation Starters for Husbands and Wives

This game, designed specifically for Married Christian Couples is just what you’ve been looking for.

Every marriage requires work and as Christians, we know how important it is for us to honor our marriages with our time and effort.

This game is a fun and easy way to stay connected with your hubby.

No matter how long you’ve been married, there’s always more to learn and explore with him.

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#3: The Intimacy Deck

With over 150 prompts, the Intimacy Deck is bound to get you and your hubby talking.

This game, by Best Self, has thousands of great reviews on Amazon.

They’re designed to help add some romance, vulnerability, and fun to any date night.

As you and your partner take turns asking each other questions, you’ll be prompted to share more with each other.

Emotional intimacy is key to any thriving marriage, and this game can help you continually build intimacy with your husband.

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How to use these Conversation Starters for Couples

These conversation starters for couples can be used anytime, anywhere.

Whether you’re on your date night, in the car on a road trip, or over dinner…

These conversation topics give you the chance to infuse more intimacy into your relationship as often as you’d like.

Some recommendations on how to use these conversation starters:

1. Be Vulnerable – Some of these questions may make you uncomfortable, that’s okay. In fact, it’s a good thing. Use this as an opportunity to practice being vulnerable with your man. This can help you both feel closer to each other.
2. Be Honest – Honesty is key to building trust. Be open and honest when answering your partner. You may end up sharing something that’s uncomfortable for him, but it’s another great opportunity to share, listen, and learn from each other.
3. Listen – Take time to really hear and understand what your husband shares with you. Do your best to make him feel like he can continue opening up to you.
4. Have fun – Most importantly have fun. Couples who can have fun together can build strong friendships.
5. Be flexible – These conversation starters are meant to serve as a spark. You may discover other questions you want to ask as the conversation gets going. Be flexible and allow the conversation to flow naturally. And don’t be afraid to improvise!

That’s it for this post. Now it’s your turn – schedule some time to do this with your hunny and have some fun.

I hope these conversation starters are helpful, and if you have any questions or comments, feel free to drop ’em in the comments below.