How to Write Your Own Self Esteem Affirmations

Self-Worth and Self-Esteem Affirmations are plentiful – you can easily find 100s of Affirmations online.

But if you wanna take things to the next level, I recommend writing your own personalized affirmations.

You know the specific issues you’re dealing with.

Which makes you the best person to come up with affirmations that speak to the heart of those issues.

So, I encourage you to spend some time writing your own.

I’ve outlined a few different types below, along with how to write them.

I even included my own affirmations along with some of the Bible Verses that inspire them.

Of course, if you need some help getting started, check out this list of 100 Confidence Boosting Affirmations for Women.

*Quick note before we get to the good stuff: When I talk about self-esteem and self-worth, I’m talking about seeing yourself in a healthy way that’s based on God’s love for you and how He sees you.

I 100% believe that the Word of God is the most secure foundation for our confidence and self-image.

Okay, now let’s get to writing…

Affirmations about your behavior

Why: Your life is, in a lot ways, a result of the things you have and have not done.

And we’ve gotta take responsibility for the things we can control if we wanna see real change.

So use this affirmation to encourage yourself in building better habits.

How: Ask yourself, what habits or character traits do you want to develop?

Example: Personally, I can be super lazy and timid. Which means I don’t do some things I know I need to do because i’m too scared (of rejection, failure, etc) or I just don’t feel like doing it.

So an example of one of my affirmations is this:

“I am disciplined.

God has not given me a spirit of fear and timidity, but of power, love, and self-discipline.

Every day I commit to taking actions that change my life.

And I don’t make excuses for myself.

I’m taking the actions today, that will create a brighter tomorrow for me.“

| 🙏 2 Timothy 1:7 (NLT) – For God has not given us a spirit of fear and timidity, but of power, love, and self-discipline

Affirmations about your ability and power

Why: If you’ve spent a lot of time thinking about what you can’t do it, then it’s time to do some reprograming.

Self esteem affirmations focused on your ability and power can help you take the mental limits off.

And at that point, you can accomplish more than you could imagine…

How: Ask yourself this question, “How can I flip all of the negative things I’ve spoken over my potential?”

Example: I’ve always been very timid. I was afraid of being wrong and I was afraid of being rejected, so I hid a lot.

I shrunk often. And for a long time that defined my identity.

I didn’t think I could ever be as bold and fearless and some of the people I admired.

So my affirmation looks like this:

“I’m courageous. I’m bold. I am fearless. God is with me, so I can do anything.

I face my challenges and tackle opportunities with bravery and strength.

There’s no limit to my potential, so I’m going after God’s purpose for me with my whole heart.”

| 🙏 Joshua 1:9 (NLT) – This is my command—be strong and courageous! Do not be afraid or discouraged. For the LORD your God is with you wherever you go.”

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Affirmations about your future

Why: Your views on yourself will affect your views on what’s possible for you.

Low self esteem can lead to negative self talk that discourages you from going after your God given dreams.

Affirmations around your future can help shift your focus to what you need to be working towards.

How: Answer this, “If I could do anything in this world, and I knew I wouldn’t fail, what would I do?” (i love this question btw)

Example: Despite the fact that I’m an introvert, there’s always been a part of me that knew I wanted to impact the world.

I knew I wanted to be bold and share my gifts with the world

(I’m still discovering my gifts. For a long time I didn’t think I had any gifts, but throughout the years God’s started revealing them to me.)

Here’s my affirmation:

“I’m an author, speaker, and entrepreneur.

I’m encouraging women all around the globe to live fruitful lives.

I show up fully and authentically in this world. I’m everything God created me to be and I’m living out my purpose to the fullest.”

| 🙏 Ephesians 2:10 (NLT) –  For we are God’s masterpiece. He has created us anew in Christ Jesus, so we can do the good things he planned for us long ago.

Self Esteem Affirmations about your relationship with yourself

Why: Outside of your relationship with God, your relationship with yourself is the most important relationship you have.

And we should take our cue on how to treat ourselves from how God treats us.

Use these Self-esteem affirmations to reframe how you see yourself and change the way you treat yourself.

How: In an ideal world, how would you feel about yourself?

And how would you treat yourself?

Use those answers to help you write your affirmation.

Example: Growing up, I rejected myself in many ways (and that’s probably why I was so afraid of other people rejecting me.)

I didn’t like the way I looked, I hated my personality, and as a result I found it very hard to like me.

So here’s where I started with my affirmation.

“I’m not perfect and that’s okay.

I don’t need to be perfect, I just need to try my best.

And as long as I do that, I’m proud of me.

I choose to be gracious and kind towards myself.

I choose to forgive myself when I mess up and I choose to encourage myself to keep pushing.

I’m honest about my shortcomings, but I do not put myself down.

On my best days and on my worst days, I love me, I like me, and I choose me. Always.”

| 🙏 Psalm 100:3 (NLT) – Acknowledge that the LORD is God! He made us, and we are his. We are his people, the sheep of his pasture.

Affirmations about your relationships

Why: If you don’t value yourself, chances are you’ll form relationships with (and even gravitate to) people who don’t value you either.

Besides that, your self-image can make YOU a horrible person to be in a relationship with.

It can make you prone to jealousy, resentment, and anger.

You can end up making your happiness, someone else’s responsibility.

And, that’s no bueno.

Self esteem affirmations can be powerful in helping you redefine your relationships.

How: At your best, what kind of friend/partner do you want to be? How do you want people to treat you?

Use those answers to help you write your self esteem affirmations.

Example: Girl, I can tell you from experience that low self esteem can land you in the wrong relationships.

Trust me, I’ve been there.

I had to go back to the basics in terms of what I would and wouldn’t tolerate in my relationships. #boundaries

I’ve also had to be honest about the fact that my constant desire to be validated, made me a bad friend in some cases.

I’d end up being jealous of friends when I should have been celebrating them.

As I grew in my relationship with God, it become super important to me that I become a better friend and that I set standards in my relationships.

So here’s what my affirmation looked like.

“I genuinely love the people in my life. I am not envious, I am supportive.

Celebrating my friends and family brings me so much joy.

I value the people in my life, and I choose relationships with people who value, respect, and love me.

I won’t settle for less than I deserve and I won’t stay in relationships with people who don’t mean me well.”

| 🙏 Romans 12:15-16 (NLT) – Be happy with those who are happy, and weep with those who weep. Live in harmony with each other. Don’t be too proud to enjoy the company of ordinary people. And don’t think you know it all!

Affirmations about your relationship with God

Of course, we saved the best and most important for last.

Why: God didn’t make any mistakes on you and you weren’t an accident.

If you rely on Him to show you who He created you to be and how He sees you, it has the power to change your whole world.

How: Imagine this, what if you have a purpose bigger than you’ve ever imagined?

What if you were given gifts, talents, and capabilities that you haven’t discovered yet?

And what if the key to you living out your purpose was found in your relationship with God?

What kind of relationship would you want to have with Him? Use that as inspiration to write your affirmations.

Example: My relationship with God was the #1 reason I’ve been able to overcome insecurity. #facts.

I spent so much time HATING Him because I believed that He made everyone better than He made me.

I believed He could’ve given me a better body, better personality, blah blah blah.

So I resented Him.

But, part of me hoped that He saw more in me than I saw in myself.

Because of that I started asking Him to help me see myself the way He sees me.

I turned that prayer into one of my self esteem affirmations:

“A perfect God made me. He loves me, sees me, and cares for me.

He could have made anyone else, but He chose me. And I know He sees beauty in me.

With each passing day, I learn to see myself the way He sees me.

And with each passing day, I learn to love and trust Him more.

He’s a good Father and a friend to me.

I will listen to and obey Him.”

| 🙏 Psalm 139:16-17 (NLT) – You saw me before I was born. Every day of my life was recorded in your book. Every moment was laid out before a single day had passed. How precious are your thoughts about me, O God. They cannot be numbered!

The key to writing powerful affirmations:

In order for these affirmations to work, you’ve gotta make them personal.

Make them relevant to whatever you’re dealing with.

That’s why I didn’t give you pre-written affirmations, because what works for me, probably won’t work for you.

But if you start using affirmations, you will notice a difference. That leads me to today’s challenge.

Challenge: Write your own Self Esteem Affirmations

Today’s challenge is probably pretty obvious, but here’s what you’re going to do:

1. Come up with a list of the topics you want to write affirmations around (hint: what are some areas you’re struggling in?)
2. Use the prompts above (or create your own) to write your own affirmations
3. Post your affirmations somewhere you can see it daily.
4. Include your affirmations in your daily routine. (I recommend saying them in the morning after you wake up and at night before you go to bed.)

Much Love!