Have you ever felt like your job was sucking the very life out of you? Was it the work you were doing? Or the people you were working with?

Maybe both of those, day by day were driving you craaazzzy?

That’s where I’ve been for months now and October I put an end to it.

I quit my job this month. Yup, that happened…

And, no I don’t have another job lined up. So, needless to say, October was an interesting month for me. The long and short of it is that I was miserable at my job. So I channeled my inner Steve Harvey and jumped. More on that in a bit.

Is it scary? Abso-friggin-lutely. But, I’d rather face my fear now than live a life that I’ll just end up regretting later.

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I’m not telling you to quit your job at all. But if you’re unhappy with your job, I’m hoping my experience can give you an additional perspective that’ll help you make the choice that’s right for you.


Unhappy with My job…

Normally, I’m someone who doesn’t take a ton of risks. I like…

✅  The comfort and sense of security that having and following a plan gives me.

✅  Having a steady paycheck because let’s be real… having food and being able to pay my rent on time is a necessity.

A couple months ago I found myself dreading signing in to work every day.

I worked from home (remote work was one of the lifestyle choices I made early on in my career). So I had an easy commute from my bedroom to my office, had a decent salary, and good benefits.

I had all the things “good jobs” are made out of.

But it wasn’t enough to keep from being unhappy with my job. Here’s why…

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Why I was unhappy with my job

Figuring out why I was unhappy took some digging and introspection. If you’re struggling to figure out why you’re really unhappy, check this out. It’ll point you in the right direction.


1. It didn’t align with my career goals.

Simply put, I had no real interest in the work I was doing. I didn’t want to do it.

I did it just to get a paycheck and health insurance – outside of that, it held no substantial value for me.

Personally, if I’m spending MOST of my time at work, I want that time to count.

I want to do work I enjoy and believe in.

Work that will inspire me to keep going when things get tough.

At my previous job, I had no desire to keep going even on the easiest of days.

I knew that sooner or later how I felt, and being unhappy with my job, would show up in how I performed. And I did NOT want that happening. I may have hated my job, but at least I was good at it.


2. Staying at my job would cost me more money in the long term.

I’d reached a place in my work where I wasn’t growing or learning new skills.

I wasn’t being challenged by the work, and I felt stunted.

If you’ve been around the blog for any time now, you know that financial freedom is one of my goals.

One of the things I know 100% is this: I’m going to reach those goals by maximizing the value I can add to other people, whether they’re an employer or a client.

Staying at job where I can’t increase my skill-set or the value I can add to others, would negatively impact my earning potential in the future.

I can’t afford to do that to myself.

Staying at this job now, is not worth delaying my dream of financial freedom.


That’s Why I Quit my job

Those were the 2 biggest reasons I was unhappy with my job. They were also my biggest motivators for quitting.

I reviewed my career goals and realized that I needed to pivot in order to hit them.

I’ll share more about my game plan in my November update, but I’m optimistic and ready to work on my next steps.

In the meantime, throw a prayer up for your girl. ??

All in all, I’m confident that choosing not to settle will bring me closer to my goals.

Speaking of which, it’s time for that monthly update.


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If you’re interested in how October went for me, besides quitting my job, check out my monthly goals update below…

(If not, skip ahead. After my updates I share more about what YOU should consider if the overwhelming thought in your life right now is, “I’m unhappy with my job.”)


The perfect tool to track your goals and progress

So, I just did my review of October and it was a pretty good month for me.

Keeping track of my goals is pretty easy because of my planner – I use this thing DAILY. Several times a day in fact.

The planner I use to keep track of my monthly/yearly goals is no longer available.

But, here’s the next one I’m getting: https://christianplanner.com/

It has great reviews and includes Bible Verses, vision board, and prayers.

If you get this planner, or already have it, let me know what you think!



  • Sell my car  [FAIL ?] – We leased a car this month! This is our first time leasing a vehicle, but we decided it was time because my husband’s car was wrecked in an accident. And my car, God bless her, was at the point that I had to pray just to get her to start. ?. The goal was to sell her, but it took so long for me to commit to letting her go, that I didn’t start researching it until October 31st. So we’ll move this to next month.
  • Lease a new car [PASS ?] – I have been focusing on paying down our debt, so that we could afford to get a new car. I paid off some of our monthly recurring bills, which gave us the financial wiggle room we needed to lease without increasing our monthly spend.
  • Save $500 [FAIL ?] – We did not hit our savings goal at all this month, which I’m disappointed about. We made some pretty poor financial choices this month, most of which involved stuffing our faces at a variety of restaurants across South Florida. Our pockets and waist lines deserve better. ? SMH.
  • Hit Sales Goals for work  [PASS ?]– October (and Q3 actually) was an amazing month for me in terms of my Sales goals. I got the biggest (and last) commission check I’ve ever gotten from work. Halle-lu-jah. ‘Scuse me while I praise break ?. lol
  • Bring in extra income ? – I actually hadn’t set this goal for October, but it was another win financially for me. One of my previous clients recommended me to a colleague, who hired me to re-do her resume for her. I made some extra money and got to do work that I really enjoy. That’s what I call a win-win. I know I’m working in my gifts and passions when I get emails like this…



  • Finish setting up my office – [PASS ?] – We finally got our office set up. Hubby and I wanted an inspiring space to work on our dreams. We’re both in love with the finished product.
  • Do the church-wide Devotional Series [PASS ?] – We finally found a new church home and we love it. Our church launched a 6 week campaign to help us discover our Identity in Christ. Every message on Sunday was on that topic. During the week we did individual devotions using the devotional book they gave us. And on Sunday evenings we met with our small-group where we got to have really dope conversations about it.
  • Re-examine and set career goals [FAIL ?] – I mostly finished this, but still have some work to do. I’m tackling this daily, so I’ll share my progress in my November update.
  • Volunteer [PASS ?] – I volunteered 2x this month. I recently became Secretary for a non-profit called Leaders Recognizing Leaders. October 19th was our yearly Global Youth Leadership Conference and I served as the Co-Chair. I also volunteered at our Church’s “Light the Night” celebration on October 31st. Again, this is one of the things I’m MOST proud of. And I’m glad that I’m getting back into the swing of volunteering regularly.

[Side note: I like this pass/fail method of posting my wins and losses for the month bc it helps keep me honest. I got the idea from Michelle SCHROEDER-GARDNER. Do you have a way of grading your progress from month to month? ]

All in all, October was a great month for my “other” goals and not so great for my “financial goals.”

Taking the leap of faith to quit my job was scary, but like I said, I think the alternative is scarier.

As I’m writing this, it’s my first Monday being self-employed.

To be honest, what I feel more than anything is optimism and hope that this leap of faith will pay off.

I’ll share exactly what I’m doing in my November update.


The danger of being and staying unhappy with your job (IMHO)

Some people don’t need to be happy at work. I get it.

They go to work for a paycheck and that’s it.

I’m not one of those people.

In fact, I think that being and staying unhappy at work can be dangerous.

There are several reasons why, but here are the first few that come to mind:

  • Over time it can increase your stress level, which will negatively impact your brain, your health, and other areas of your life.
  • If a job sucks you dry mentally and creatively, it can leave you with nothing left over to give to your personal goals/hustle. You’ll feel drained.
  • It can lead to you sacrificing the things you need the most – peace, living with a sense of purpose, having a sense of fulfillment.

If you’re unhappy with your job right now, I challenge you to take a look at what staying in your current job is costing you.

Maybe you’ll realize that you need a new perspective on your job, or a new job altogether.

Whatever conclusion you come to, you can start setting goals around that.


1 Question to ask if you’re unhappy with your job

If you’re unhappy with your job and want to leave, there’s one clarifying question that you absolutely 100% need to ask yourself BEFORE you make a move.

If you don’t ask yourself this question, you can end up getting another job that’s just as  bad or worse than the one you’re leaving.

Here it is: Do I dislike the work itself, or do I dislike my work environment?


Getting clear on what you don’t like

Those are 2 very different problems.

If you dislike the work itself, like I did, you may be in the wrong field. It may time to re-evaluate your career track and explore different avenues.

If you dislike the work environment, you may be in the right job but at the wrong place. In that case you want to get clear on the kind of culture and work environment you want to work in.

If you dislike parts of your job, you may be in the right arena, but just need to make some tweaks.

For example I like a role that has variety, so I ended up functioning as more of a “generalist” at my last job. I got to do a little bit of everything, but my career trajectory got muddled.

So, I switched to Product Management which gave me the chance to still have my hands in a little bit of everything, but with a more strategic direction.

Once you’re clear on what you don’t like, it’s time to evaluate what you want for yourself.


What are your career goals?

If you don’t have career goals yet, that’s a great place to start.

Your goals tell you where you’re going. You’ll need that piece of info in order to decide what your next move should be.

So if your current job is making you unhappy, here are 2 questions to help you get clarity on your career goals and how to hit them.

  1. How does your work life fit into your life goals? Some people don’t want or need to find fulfillment in there 9-5. They’re able to find that outside of work. Do you want your job to align with your passions or is there another factor that’s more important to you?
  2. Is your current job moving you closer or farther from the goals? If the work you’re doing now isn’t moving you closer to your goals, then what role/job will? For example, what are some of the skills you’ll need to develop to excel, and what kind of job will help you develop those skills?

I think one of the greatest lessons I’ve learned is to always ask myself “why?”.

Why am I doing this job?

If I can’t come up with a good answer, I know it’s time to reevaluate.


Resources to help you if you’re unhappy with your job

Unhappy with your job or think a pivot is in order?

Here are some resources that I’ve found super helpful:

    • Linda Raynier’s Youtube Channel – A career coach who gives heart centered career advice. You can check her channel out here. https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCXUyg1vYSupswhi0zNeD-5w/featured
    • EdX – Get free courses, mini-degrees, and training from accredited universities around the country for free or at a nominal cost. I’ve taken an EdX course and was super impressed with the quality of the training. Here’s the link for EdX: https://www.edx.org/
    • Udemy – Courses that start from $10 on a wide variety of topics. If you need to learn a new skill or develop your current skillset, Udemy is a great option. You can sign up for a Udemy Account here: https://www.udemy.com/ 


Your Challenge

When I was unhappy with my job, I always reminded myself of this…

I am never stuck! There is always a way. I can always choose to make a change.”

Here’s my challenge to you: Remember that you’re not stuck. You can make choices that will move you towards your goals. Assess your situation and plan your next move.

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Chances are that if you read this post, you are where I was.

I’m curious –

  • What are the biggest reasons you’re unhappy with your job?
  • What do you think your next steps will be?

Comment below and let me know. Let’s support and encourage each other on this journey!

w/ light and love,


Matthew 5:14 – You are the light of the world. And like a city on a hill that cannot be hidden.

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