Can you relate to not feeling…
Whatever the reason, I know that not believing you’re “enough” sucks. Looking around and seeing countless other girls who have the looks, talents, smarts, or personality, you wish you had, is heartbreaking.
I’ve been there and I used to blame God for it. I used to get really, really angry at Him because I blamed Him for making everyone else better than me.
The worst feeling was that I couldn’t trust a God that I believed made me “less than.”
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But all of that changed when I found out the truth behind my self-loathing. It’s the same reason you have low self esteem. And, I have to warn you, it’s going to make you angry.
I won’t leave you hanging though. At the end, I’m going to give you part 1 of a 5 day challenge designed to help you ditch low self esteem and experience a new level of freedom.
I know as good as anyone that having low self esteem sucks, so I hope you’ll take me up on this challenge. Now let’s go.
You have low self esteem on purpose…
Yup, I said it. You have low self esteem on purpose.
No, it’s not your fault. Yes, it is on you to change your view of yourself.
Before we go further let’s cover the basics and make sure we’re on the same page.
What is low self esteem?
“Low self-esteem is characterized by a lack of confidence and feeling badly about oneself. People with low self-esteem often feel unlovable, awkward, or incompetent.” – Psych Alive
That’s the psychological angle, but since we’re believers, I’m going to add another layer to that definition – If you have low self esteem then your beliefs about yourself don’t line up with what God says about you.
So if you fall into that category ☝, I need you to know that you’re not alone and the struggle you’re having is not an accident. You’re under attack.
Those self-defeating thoughts are weapons of mass destruction being aimed at your mind.
When the enemy attacks your identity, he’s attacking your purpose and your future.An attack on your identity is an attack on your purpose and future. Click To Tweet
Sounds a little dramatic, right? But, let me prove it to you…
How many times has your low self esteem:
- Kept you from going after things you really wanted?
- Kept you from showing up in this world the way you really want to?
- Caused you to hide in the background instead of moving forward in boldness and in faith?
- Caused you to spend countless hours feeling so badly that you couldn’t do anything productive?
And, let’s be honest, will you ever be the ABSOLUTE best version of yourself (the version of yourself you really want to be) if low self esteem continues to hang around?
If we’re really being honest, we both know the answer is “no.”
The enemy attacks your identity to keep you from living in your God given purpose and power.
He attacks your beliefs about the 2 people you absolutely need in order to fully live a purpose driven and powerful life, God and yourself.
He’s done the same thing since the beginning of time.
The 1st identity crisis
One night I was being bombarded by negative thoughts about myself. Like usual my insecurity was taking over and self-sabotaging thoughts darted back and forth relentlessly in my mind.
In the midst of the chaos, I distinctly heard the Holy Spirit ask a question that changed my life.
He asked, “when the serpent approached Eve in the garden, was he attacking her identity?” It seemed like an odd question, but after thinking about it, the answer was clear.
It was so obvious, but I’d never realized it before- He did attack her identity.
He told her that if she ate the fruit, she’d be like God. But umm… she was already like God.
God made both Adam and her in His image. But because she didn’t know who she truly was, the enemy hit her with the okey-doke. He fed her a lie and stole what God had for her.
The result? She went from being a ruler, having dominion, and walking in provision, to living a life tragically below the one God wanted her to live.If the enemy can convince you that you’re not really who God says you are, he’ll trick you into giving up the destiny God’s given you. Click To Tweet
Your perception and beliefs about yourself determine whether you conquer giants and rule like David or stay stuck in the wilderness like the children of Israel.
Queen, you’re under attack. That’s a fact.
But, you get to choose whether you’ll fight for your purpose and your identity or whether you’ll give it up.
Now I know this probably hasn’t changed what you believe about yourself yet (don’t worry we’ll get there). For now, I just want you to know why you’re going through this.
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Don’t get punked. Get Angry.
I don’t know about you, but I can’t stand bullies. When I realized that I was being attacked, I was frustrated because I didn’t know how to stop feeling that way.
I wanted to be a better version of myself, I wanted to be free from insecurity and I wanted to feel normal…
I hated not knowing how to do that, but I had to do something because I knew staying in such a dark place would eventually be the end of me.
So I had to decide… either I was going to let the enemy punk me and rob me of any chance of having a better existence, or I was going to get angry and fight back.
It’s a choice we all get to make, and it’s a choice you get to make.
Even if you can’t imagine what your future could look like, if there’s any part of you that wants more for yourself… that wants to find out what God’s best is for you, then you have to find your reason to fight.
Find your reason to fight…
I’m not going to pretend it’ll be easy or that you’ll always feel like fighting for your future.
So you have to find something that’s going to motivate you even when you’re not feeling up to it.
Mine is my future daughter (no, i’m not preggo yet, but I have always imagined myself having a baby girl). And if the enemy tries to attack her and make her feel an ounce of what I felt throughout my life, I want to be there to stop him in his tracks.
Even in the moments I didn’t feel like pushing through, I knew that I had to protect my daughter. I knew she’d grow up watching me and I didn’t want her to follow in my footsteps.
So my reason to fight was not just for my future, but also for the future of my family, and of MY baby girl.
You can find something within you that gives you reason enough to fight. I don’t know what it is, but I know that it exists.
It’s the same thing that prompted you to read this blog post and maybe several others like this.
It’s there. Find it. Latch on to it. And let’s go.
Day 1 Challenge
Before we get into the challenge, here’s what I’m NOT asking you to do. I’m not asking you to know exactly how you’re going to do this, or to pretend like the hurt you’re feeling isn’t real.
I am however asking you to decide. Decide to fight through the hurt, through the tears, and through the negative thoughts. Choose to take one step at a time in the direction of the future you want for yourself.
Queen, you’re not defined by where you are in your life right now or who you’ve been up to this point.
There’s a God in heaven who’s able to take the weight of your hurt, anger, and everything else. And he can (and wants to) give you a future better than you’ve ever imagined.
So if you’re ready to move forward and to take back your future, here’s what I want you to do:
- Decide, and i mean really commit to fighting for your future.
- Drop a comment below and let me know what your WHY is.
- Imagine yourself having won the battle and having stepped into a new level of freedom, confidence, and hope. As that person right a letter to yourself today, encouraging yourself to push through.
- Lastly, subscribe for updates so you’ll get notified when the next post and challenge drops.
We’re going in Queen. Next week we’ll be dealing with the elephant in the room, how to trust a God you believe made you “less than.”
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